The best warriors know how to communicate. All warriors hate kaden (訛伝) or “miscommunications” because any miscommunication, no matter how small, could lead to chi wo nagasu (血を流す) or “bloodshed.” Nobody, even warriors, want to fight. Therefore, a large part of martial arts training is to learn how to clearly state our intentions and thoughts. This is one of the theories behind the need for reigi saho (礼儀作法) or “etiquette” in the martial arts. It is said that “Budo begins and ends with respect.” By beginning and ending with formality, we prevent other people from developing a sakaurami (逆恨み) or an “inadvertent grudge” because of some misunderstanding or miscommunication on our part. It is thought that our inner state is reflected in our outward actions, so we take care of the formalities so as to not create a problem where there is not a problem. For instance, when we bow to our training partner, we are communicating to them that we respect them and that our intention is to not harm them on purpose and so they don’t misinterpret our hard throw as being malicious. In our dojo, the students are supposed to announce themselves and say their names whenever they enter or leave the dojo. For example, when a student enters the dojo, they are supposed to say in a loud voice, “Hello, Sensei this is David!” Someone asked why they have to announce themselves? I explained to them that it is a Japanese custom to announce yourself when you leave or enter someone's home and that the only people who don’t are dorobo or “thieves” or ansatsusha or “assassins.” However, the reason why we follow this custom in our dojo is because Furuya Sensei used to live in the dojo, and it was his home. In a sentimental way, students today follow this custom out of respect for Sensei now that he has passed away. Showing respect, even if we don’t want to, forces us to think of someone other than ourselves for at least one moment. Thus, being able to communicate one’s self properly is a warrior’s most important skill. Proper communication can prevent blood shed or at the very least unnecessary hurt feelings. Don’t forget to bow!
Today’s goal: Be kind and polite even if you don’t have to or want to.