Let every person be your teacher

A funny thing happens on the way to learning something, we realize that given the proper attitude that we can learn something from everyone.  The key statement is "given the proper attitude."  Having the proper attitude begins with letting go of the ego of "I know."  When we can realize that we don't know everything then we can begin the journey to learn a lot of things.  Learning requires we first be open to anything and everything and second be willing to learn from anything and everything.  When asked, "Who is your teacher?" the enlightened monk answers, "Everything." The Buddha said, "Nothing ever exists entirely alone; everything is in relation to everything else."  Because everything is the same or interrelated then we can then learn from any source.  Last night's Tai Chi seminar, although not Aikido, can help us become better Aikidoist, but that requires that we look upon it with open and willing eyes.  If you can do that then everyone and everything can become your teacher and there won't be anything you can't do or learn.  With that power, the world will then become your oyster.

------------------------------------------------------ Day 8 update: Whew what a day.  Taking guests around shopping and running back and forth from the dojo to the hotel presented enough let someone off the hook moments to last for days.  But, I mandated for myself 4 and 4 and that was the hard part. Letting myself off the hook was easy to do once, but 3 more times was a real struggle.  I am starting to see that it is so hard to be easy on myself, but I think that this challenge is shaping up this way.

Day 9: Let 2 people off the hook and let yourself off 7 times.

Genius!

How to become a master.  The recipe is a simple one: 3 parts sweat 8 parts tears A little bit of blood A whole lot of effort

Yesterday I was fortunate to see a master at work.  Karita Sensei came and someone brought a sword by for him to appraise (kantei).  Not knowing anything, we budgeted about 15 minutes for this appointment.  Surprisingly, Karita Sensei spent the better part of an hour discussing this sword with its owner.  He got down to the smallest detail and explained every one of his findings and with saint-like patience.  It was mind blowing how much detail he could suss out.  He explained where the sword was likely made and by whom and then he went further and described all the shortcomings of the blade.  He then went on to discuss the fittings and their likely origins. But the mind blowing thing is when he discussed the paperwork that came with the sword and the likelihood that it was not legitimate.  He was able to discern so much information that a beginner would likely have missed because it was so minute but to him it stood out like a sore thumb.  I don't think his appraisal was what the owner was looking for but it was free and very detail oriented so how could he be mad.

Watching Karita Sensei work was truly a treat.  We forget how much preparation goes into becoming an expert at something.  Afterwards as we discussed it, Karita Sensei told me, "I treat it and study it like fine art."  He is passionate about what he does and it is apparent in his skill.  This reminds me of a quote.  The famous violinist Sarasate was once called a genius by a famous critic to which he responded, “For 37 years I've practiced 14 hours a day, and now they call me a genius.”  Karita Sensei's mastery like that of Sarasate is a result of a lifetime of study that was built upon a lot of effort.

--------------------------------------------- Day 7 update: I think I have found the meaning to this exercise.  It began with letting others off the hook but now it seems the more important or meaningful person to let off the hook is myself.  Don't get me wrong the easy ones are still there like when my assistant got lost, but the more meaningful one came at dinner when I got upset about something but then remembered to let myself off the hook.  This helped me shift back to balance and enjoy the rest of the evening.

Day 8: Let 4 other people off the hook and yourself 4 times.

Free Tai Chi Seminar today and tomorrow

Karita Sensei from Tokyo Japan will be teaching two Tai Chi classes on July 30 and 31 at 6:30 PM (There will be no regular classes those days).

The classes are free and open to everyone (members and guests).

Guests should arrive early so that they can fill out the waiver.

Please wear your gi pants and a white t-shirt.

For more information email info@aikidocenterla.com

Sourvenirs from training

Last night a student who has been studying Aikido for just over a year tore a hole in the knee of his gi pants or zubon.  When I noticed it, I said, "Congratulations."  I said congratulations because that hole represents something that money can't buy - hard work.  Only a thoroughly worn-in faded uniform get holes in knees, broken draw strings or a tears in the sleeves or lapels.  There is a saying that black belts are merely white belts that are stained black with blood, sweat and tears and your uniform is no different.  The knees of your uniform don't get ripped because you are taking it easy.  They get ripped because you wear them down with effort and they become drab from all the blood, sweat and tears. A hole is something you cannot fake or would not fake because to most it is presence is benign and usually overlooked, but to people who do train hard, it's like joining an exclusive club.  This exclusive club's enjoys the membership of every great master of every great martial art throughout history because they too have all put the work in.  This exclusive club however is open for anyone to join.  The only requirements to join are hard work, perseverance, and self-discipline.

A hole then is more than just a hole - it is the gateway to a whole other world.  Please keep up the good work!

------------------------------------------- Day 6 update:  Sorry about not updating you on day 5.  I completely forgot.  Day 6 has been a bit of a struggle as finding 3-4 opportunities is easy, but I find it a bit of stretch for the last one.  I actually realized it in bed and I began to get mad, but then a thought came to mind to let myself off the hook.  Wow!  What a great idea.

Day 7: Let 5 other people or things off the hook and let yourself off the hook at least twice.

Just do it...about 1,000,000 times

Tell me, I’ll forgetShow me, I’ll remember Involve me, I’ll understand ~Chinese Proverb

Author Malcolm Gladwell wrote in his book Outliers that in order to get good at anything you have to dedicate on average about 10,000 hours of practice.  Miyamoto Musashi, however, advocated 10,000 days.  From my point of view it takes about a million repetitions or so to completely master any movement.  Those who study sword talk about doing bouts of 1,000 suburi and they are probably at right around a million if you calculate it out over a 10 year period by today's practice standard.  In olden times a million would take about 3 years.

You actually don't have to do it a million times, but it takes about that many repetitions for all our baggage to fall away.  We bring so many preconceived notions, ideas and "knowledge" to the activity that it makes it hard to master.  Only when we "let it go" can we find what we are looking for.  En route to a million our baggage becomes to heavy to carry and in order to achieve a million we have to let it go.  Then, somewhere around a million we notice that we have and that the movement has become more pure or fluid.  So sometimes it's not that you got better, but that all the obstacles to mastery have fallen away.

The sign pictured above is in the men's dressing room.   The most poignant statement reads, "One hour of practice is one hour closer to your enlightenment."  Sensei most likely put it up because as he puts it, "There's no time left."  If we are to get to a million with any endeavor we need to start now because as Sensei also put it, "There is no time left to waste!"

Be the change you want to see in the world...

“Be the change you wish to see in the world” is an often fictional quoted attributed to Ghandi.  Ghandi's original quote is, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. … We need not wait to see what others do.” Even if it is paraphrased or misquoted it still has some value to how we live our lives as not only martial artist, but human beings.

As martial artist we live our lives by ichigon.  Ichigon directly translates as "say one thing" but is loosely meant to mean do what you say and say what you do or in other words integrity.  If we want the class or the dojo to progress or for the students to get better, the first person we need to look at is ourselves (students and teachers alike).  Are we living the Way?  Are we the change we seek in others first?  Saying is one thing but doing is quite another.  You want things to get better?  Change yourself first.

For teachers, please remember there is no such thing as bad students, only bad teachers.  Therefore, be the change you want to see in others.

---------------------------------------------- Day 4 update: The challenge still doesn't seem to be that difficult.  It just takes a bit of awareness.  This day wasn't difficult and I found myself gifted with several opportunities to let someone off the hook.  We had intensive and only 11 people came and that posed several opportunities, but the one that sticks with me can as a result of us spending time organizing Sensei's collection of swords.  That was a hard to let off the hook moment I have to admit, but isn't that why we are doing this challenge in the first place?

Day 5: Let someone or something off the hook 5 times.

Finding meaning to find your motivation

"To live is to suffer, to survive is to find some meaning in the suffering." ~ Nietzsche In Viktor Frankl's book Man's Search For Meaning, he chronicles the suffering and his experiences in the WWII internment camp at Auschwitz.  In a nutshell, Frankl concluded that in order to survive you had to put some meaning to the suffering and ultimately to your life after release.  Those that ceased to have meaning or purpose for survival or their life after camp ended up succumbing to the Nazi's inhumane treatment.  He said, "Life never ceases to have meaning, even in suffering and death."

In order to push yourself find meaning in why it is your doing what you are doing.  "I don't know" is the surest way to come up short.  To gain perspective is to uncover your passion.  When you have passion you can keep going long past motivation or excitement.

------------------------------------------------------ Day 3 update: Well today went just as the previous days.  The hardest part was remember to let someone off the hook.  The first two were benign mundane everyday let off the hooks, but the last one was more meaningful.  We were tired and didn't feel like braving the crowds and sorting out dinner so we ordered food from a delivery service.  The food came late and was cold when we opened it up.  I started to get mad but ended up remembering to let someone off the hook.  I calmly sent them an email and they promptly gave us a refund.  My protein shake was excellent.

Day 4: You guessed it.  Let 4 things or people off the hook.

Empty your cup

Interesting Zen story... The Zen master Nan-in had a visitor who came to inquire about Zen who was a local university professor. But instead of listening, the visitor kept talking about his own ideas.  As he spoke, Nan-in served him tea. He poured tea into his visitor's cup until it was full, then he kept on pouring until it overflowed.

The visitor noticed this and was finally unable to restrain himself. "Don't you see it's full?" he said. "No more will go in!"

"Like this cup," Nan-in said, "you are full of your own opinions and speculations. How can I show you Zen unless you first empty your cup?"

Many students worldwide are just like this university professor.  Sometimes when students come to the dojo they are already filled up with ideas and theories.  This disables them from learning and just like the professor more will not go in.  Learning the techniques is hard enough, but we make it harder when we come in with our own baggage.   "When yo come to the dojo, cut off your head and leave it outside," is something Sensei used to say often to us.

In order to learn anything we need to have the openness and willingness to learn and this cannot be done when your cup is full.  Please empty your cup before you come to practice so that you can make room for so much more.

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Day 2 "Let someone off the hook" update: Day 2 went as expected.  Finding 2 things or people to let off the hook wasn't that hard.  Driving always yields a lot of opportunities.  The second one came in the form of letting an old acquaintance off the hook for misrepresenting himself.  This one took effort and I hope it lasts.

Day 3: 1+2 = 3.  Now let 3 people off the hook.

Omiyage - a gift of friendship

The Japanese are fond of gift giving.  The exchange of gifts is called zoutou.  Whenever a Japanese person goes somewhere or travels to any place they always bring back a small token from the place they visited called an omiyage.  If they travel within Japan, they usually bring back a food item that the area is known for called meibutsu.  Most areas of Japan have some food item that they are known for and this makes for a good omiyage.  Many times it is a dessert or snack and is called a miyagegashi or souvenir sweet.  When they travel abroad they usually bring back some small souvenir like a key chain, t-shirt or some other non-perishable food (they usually don't bring back food that is not pre-packaged because it is against the rules and Japanese people always follow the rules). The exchanging of gifts is a social lubricant.  It shows that although you were away enjoying your vacation you were still thinking of the other people.  To most Japanese, especially the ones over 30, omiyage is a must and not a choice.  In Japan if you came back to the office without omiyage you would be considered rude and not a team player.  So as not to offend anyone everyone plays the game and participates in omiyage.

In America, this is not something that we participate in.  I remember one of my relatives brought back things from her vacation and one of her co-workers said, "What is this a bribe?"  Omiyage is not a bribe but a gentle social gesture that reminds people that we care about them.

What would the world be like if we all showed even a little that we cared?  I am sure it would be a nicer place.

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Day 1: I was able to fulfill day 1's requirement to let one person off the hook.  It was quite easy and actually I was able to do it about four times.  Since I was in the car for 3.5 hrs yesterday there was ample opportunity to let someone off the hook.

Today's (Day 2) challenge: Let 2 people off the hook.

Take the 10 day "Let someone off the hook" challenge

Having balance in life is about being able to appropriately deal with stress.  Stress can come from a myriad of things most of which we create for ourselves.  For me one of my self made stressors comes as I personalize things.  I get upset as someone cuts me off, cuts in line at the grocery store, or is mean to me.  The crazy thing is that I know that I do it yet I still let it get to me.  I guess everyone has something to work on and for me this is one of them.   Today I am going to try the 10 day "Let someone off the hook" challenge.  Won't you try it with me? The 10 day "Let someone off the hook" challenge is simple.  Everyday I am going to consciously "Let someone off the hook" when something happens to me or if I feel they have done something to me.  I am not going to tell them.  When something happens like getting cut off in traffic, I am just going to say to myself, "That's OK, I am going to let you off the hook."  Starting tomorrow I will post my off the hook experiences.

Rules: 1) Let someone off the hook 2) Say to yourself something like, "That's OK, I am going to let you off the hook."  You can choose your own phrase, but you must say it out loud or to yourself. 3) You can do it as many times as you want, but they don't carry over to the next day. 4) Everyday add one Day 1: 1 Day 2: 2 Day 3: 3 etc, etc

Like me...

"Although I am just a human being, I just want to model myselfafter the sword - always straight, always true and very decisive. Something that doesn't have an outer obvious strength the we look for today, but something that has an inner strength which is hard to see unless you really know it and really can appreciate it." ~ Sensei

Today, we are buffeted by society's desire for gain and self-promotion.  What are we to do?  If we don't sell ourselves who will know we are good or that we have value?  This is probably one of the hardest parts about following the Way.  When I see someone's bio on the Internet and I see some bent truths it makes me feel sad for that person that they need to "pump it up" in order to maintain their relevancy.  Why can't we be accepted for who we are?  We are human beings who are wonderful, beautiful and fallible.   Here is something I use to try and keep perspective on myself.

Like me... Every person is good and doing the best that they can. Like me... Every person suffers and is going through their own stuff. Like me... Every person is human and human beings make mistakes. Every person deserves kindness, compassion and forgiveness... Just like me.

The Way is in training

"Hard work beats talent when talent doesn't work hard." - Tim Notke What does it take to become a black belt?

The other day someone called inquiring about classes.  The first thing he wanted to know was, "How long does it take to get a black belt?"  I answered, "About 5-15 years depending on how hard your train."  His next question was, "How long did it take you?"  I answered that, "That is not relevant."  He retorted, "It is for me."  He then said, "You're not going to tell me?"  I said, "No.  You should just focus on training and not the attainment of black belt."  He said, "So you're not going to tell me?"  I said, "No."  He said, "Maybe I should go someplace else then."  I said, " You can, there are many different Aikido schools around that might suit you better.  This school focuses on training and not rank."  He then hung up.

This is a typical phone call that I get about once a week.  This desire for rank could possibly be a a product of modern thinking or maybe even western thinking - I am not completely sure.  But, it is something that people today really covet.  When I was a student rank was the last thing you talked about.  Anyone who talked about it was severely chastised by Sensei.  Budo (martial arts) is not about the attainment of rank, status or wealth.  Budo is about self-development.

I want my students to be concerned with improving themselves and not with attainment or accolades.

I have uploaded a video about the 8th dan Kendo examination in Japan.  It has a passing rate of less than 1%, but for this particular test the passing rate was 0.4%.  In order to be qualified to take the test you have to have been 7th dan for at least 8 years and be at least 46 years old.  They say that 1 in 5000 people ever pass the test, but at least 2000 people challenge the test every year.  In this video they profile a guy who has taken the test 24 times.  He might have been initially concerned with attaining the rank but now it is all about his personal growth as a human being.  They say the Way is in training.  They don't say the Way is in getting promoted or attaining rank.  Please continue to train hard.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmLfnWwP0g0

Have patience and just practice the basics...

You want to get good at Aikido?  Sensei said, "Just be patient and practice ikkyo, nikyo, sankyo and yonkyo everyday."

Awhile back, we had this really gifted student, who was a teenager, study at our school.  He was so athletic and caught on very fast.  One of the other students told me he was studying a few other martial arts at the same time and hoped to be a professional fighter someday.  The other day he asked me, "When do we get to learn kotegaeshi?"  I said that we were currently working on other techniques such as nikyo and that we would switch later on.  Soon after, he quit.  It was sad because he had so much potential, but I don't think the monotony of the basics was what he was looking for.  Too bad, but this same scenario plays out several times a year.  This is common and part of our instant gratification society where everything is available just a click away.

At our dojo, we stress the basics and we would rather that the students know a few things well than a whole bunch of things a little.  In this case, less is more.  The more I teach, the more I realize that Sensei is right.  I wish it could be flashier.  I wish it could be something fun.  It it could be something more entertaining.  But, it is not about what I want.  It is about making you better.  Supposedly there is something hidden in each of those techniques that holds a secret to the mastery of Aikido.  If you can master ikkyo, nikyo, sankyo and yonkyo, then you will have no problem doing any other technique in Aikido.  It is as simple as that.

Every day, day in and day out just practice the basics and be patient - this alone will make you good.

How hungry are you?

There is a Japanese saying, "Himoji toki no mazui mono nashi," which means that when you are hungry, nothing is unpalatable.  Learning in the martial arts is supposed to be like that, but many times we get into a rut and seek out only what is comfortable or familiar.  Many times when I go to another school or when visitors come to my school I notice that regardless of how the technique is taught the student ends up doing it his own way.  This, in my opinion, is the surest sign of complacency. Seeking the comfort of what or how you know something is the sign that you have stopped learning.  As the proverb above implies, if you are hungry to learn then you will try to take in anything and everything.  This is an indication of a good student.  This means that the student is not only ready but also eager to learn.

When I was a student one of my classmates once complained that the instructors taught the same thing slightly different and that it was hard to catch on.  I think this is true at all dojos and schools all over the world.  The problem lies within the student and not with the teaching.  My friend's discriminating palate disabled him from learning and only leads to frustration and confusion.  If you are thinking that the problem lies with the teacher, then you are looking at it from the wrong point of view.

If you are hungry, you will do anything to catch the technique, but not only that you will try anything as well.  In the old days there was a lot of "no-teach" teaching going on where the teacher demonstrated the technique or sometimes even just called it out and the students were supposed to learn it.  This "no-teach" style forced the student out of his comfort zone and to become hypersensitive to what and how something was being taught.  With that hunger the student becomes stronger and better at the techniques.  He becomes better not because the teacher is/was better but because the student is  hungry.

Please stay hungry...

There is no time to get ready so you must always be ready

In sports, you analyze your opponent, build a strategy and execute it.  This happens of a period of time.  In the martial arts, this happens in an instant. In the old days martial artists never gave exhibitions and there were never audiences to their matches.  Public displays of your skills came about during the Meiji era when schools became public but prior to this time public displays of your skills were always forbidden and the only time an opponent got to see not only your ability level or your skills is when they challenged you to a duel.

When a potential opponent approached you on the street, you had to be able to ascertain not only what style they studied (and people rarely studied more than one style), how long they have been studying, who their teacher was and what their ability level was.  All this had to be done in a blink of an eye because there are no second chances.  When a opponent came and challenged you to a duel at your school it was customary for them to announce all that information prior to the bout.  You would announce your name, your style, your school, your teacher and then your rank or years of study (most schools never gave out rank).

Martial artist then had to be well read as to what each style was capable of.  In the movie The Grandmaster, before Ip Man goes to duel with the master from the North he goes and sees all the masters from the South.  When they spar they show him what potential styles he may come up against so that he  won't be surprised.

Today it is fun to talk about style versus style and who might win, but in the end it comes down to the individual and how she is capable of adapting her style to the situation.  This is based on training and studying.  Today we have a wealth of information available to us.  In the old days it was primarily based on word of mouth.

When I was in Japan recently, someone asked me why Sensei wore his hakama so long and allowed it to drag.  I told him that Sensei did that to hide his foot work.  That person quizzically looked at me and said, "Oh, that's smart and old style."  To me it made perfect sense but the look on this guy's face said other wise.

The martial arts should not be treated as a sport.  There is nothing wrong with sports, but a true martial artist has a different mindset.  In the martial arts you have to be ready for anything as well as there is no time to get ready so you always have to be ready.  This require assiduous study and discipline.

What's your favorite martial arts movie?

The other day someone asked me what my favorite martial arts movie was.  This is a hard question to answer.  It might be even better to answer by genre.  The answer is that I don't have just one favorite, but rather that I am a fan of the entire martial art genre.  Maybe someday I will go through and write about why I like these movies, but that is probably an essay for each.  Nonetheless, here are some of my favorite martial arts movies that aren't in any order. Chinese The Iron Monkey starring Yu Rongguang and Donnie Yen Once Upon A Time in China series starring Jet Li The Grandmaster by Wong Kar-wai and starring Tony Leung and Zhang Ziyi. Hero starring Jet Li Twin Warriors aka Tai Chi Master starring Jet Li Come Drink with Me starring Cheng Pei-pei Ip Man starring Donnie Yen The 36th Chamber of Shaolin aka Shaolin Master Killer starring Gordon Liu The One Armed Swordsman starring Jimmy Wang Kung-Fu Panda with Jack Black Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon starring Chow Yun-fat Fist of Legend starring Jet Li

Japanese Sanshiro Sugata 1 & 2 by Akira Kurosawa Sanjuro by Akira Kurosawa and starring Toshiro Mifune Twilight Samurai starring Hiroyuki Sanada Kuro-obi (Black Belt) starring Tatsuya Naka Seven Samurai by Akira Kurosawa and starring Toshiro Mifune Yojimbo by Akira Kurosawa and starring Toshiro Mifune Killing Machine starring Sonny Chiba Samurai Trilogy starring Toshiro Mifune Shadow Warriors (TV series) starring Sonny Chiba Lone Wolf and Cub series starring Tomisaburō Wakayama Throne of Blood starring Toshiro Mifune Street Fighter series starring Sonny Chiba

Honorable mentions Dragon Tiger Gate starring Donnie Yen Blade starring Wesley Snipes Red Beard by Akira Kurosawa and starring Toshiro Mifune Mito Komon (TV series) starring pretty much every well known aging Japanese actor Kung-fu Hustle starring Stephen Chow Brotherhood of the Wolf starring Mark Dacascos High Kick Girl starring Tatsuya Naka The Throwdown starring Louis Koo Above the Law starring Steven Seagal (probably the only one Steven Seagal movie I would ever recommend) Vanishing Son (TV series) starring Russell Wong Kung-fu (TV series) starring David Carradine Ong Bak starring Tony Jaa Red Sun starring Toshiro Mifune The Karate Kid starring Pat Morita

Never give up on your dreams...

In the month of May you may have seen a lot of streamers with the koi or japanese carp symbol flying around Little Tokyo.  The banners were for Children's day (formerly Boys day) which is on May 5 every year. The koi is supposed to represent strength and perseverance and is s common motif seen in not only Japanese but Chinese culture too.  The main legend is that a group of koi were swimming upstream towards a waterfall.  Once they reached the end of the river at waterfall many koi became disheartened and turned back.  A group of gold koi began to try and jump to the top of the waterfall each time failing, but they kept trying.  Watching from the river bank was group of demons who mocked the unsuccessful koi and even made the waterfall higher out of spite.  After hundreds of years of trying one finally made it.  The gods were so impressed with the koi's perseverance and determination that they turned the gold koi into a dragon.

The koi symbol is a popular among the warrior class and martial arts as the symbol to never give up regardless of the odds.  The koi are often depicted swimming up a waterfall, with men or boys riding them or two koi swimming in a circle.

Irassaimase!

Whenever you go into any Japanese restaurant or any type of business in Japan for that matter you often hear the people working there shout out, "Irasshaimase!"  Irasshaimase is the customary greeting welcoming and acknowledging customers to a place of business.  You never hear "irasshaimase" when you come into a traditional Japanese martial arts dojo. A dojo doesn't have customers or patrons.  We only have students that are willing to learn.  If we create an atmosphere of business it will change not only the face of the dojo but how everything is done.

In a business, the customer is always right.  The customer gets what he pays for.  Feedback is necessary to keep the patron happy because your satsifaction is the key to success.  In business, they do all the work so as to minimize the customers efforts and to keep them happy.

In a dojo, the student is always not right.  (I am hesitant to say "wrong" because of the negative connotation).  If you approach it like a school, you get what you work for.  At the dojo, feedback only reveals what you don't know and is therefore frowned upon.  In traditional training, you satisfaction comes not from what the teacher does but more from what the student does.  At the dojo, the students do all the work to keep the dojo going.  The funny thing about the dojo is that the whole experience, atmosphere, curriculum, etc is designed with the student in mind and his development.  It just seems like its not about you but is really is.

In this day and age it is hard to maintain a separation between a business and a school.  In the eyes of todays student/customer they are the same.  Sadly, to the dojo they are completely separate and have to be.  They have to be because the dojo's biggest concern is not making money, but in developing good students.  Where would the dojo be if we allow students or potential students to dictate things like the schedule, what is being taught as well as how it's being taught.  If that were to happen, "The inmates would be running the asylum."  It is not that way because it would take too long and waste too much time, money and effort.  The best process for making students good is simply this: Listen to what the teacher says, copy what he does, don't ask questions, work hard and never give up.  This method is tried and true and has been refined over many years, decades and even centuries.

Please don't think about the dojo as a business.  It changes everything.

The enemy of all martial artists...

The enemy of all martial artists is a nice warm comfortable bed. Think about it.  Why would you get out of a perfectly nice comfy warm bed.  Nobody wants to.  I know I don't.  On one hand it is so delightfully wonderful that you could just lie there and lose the entire day there and I am sure many of us have wondered why scientitsts haven't come up with an answer for going to the bathroom or eating in bed.  Duh that's a no brainer.  On the other hand when you are not in bed, the thought of a warm comfortable bed is so inviting that we all strive for one.  The warm comfortable bed is  the metaphor for a wonderful life.  In the comfy bed everything is the way it should be - you are warm, safe, comfortable, stinky but in a nice way and surrounded by non judgmental totaly accepting pillows and blankets.  If you are lucky then maybe someone is there with you to share the awesomeness and help you order Chinese food.  If a warm bed is the glove in which evil slips its hand into then sign me up for another.

If the world is so great in a comfy cozy bed, why would you leave?  And that is why the bed is the enemy of all martial artists.

It is hard for me to advocate choosing pain over pleasure because I know that we are all human and sometimes we all need a break.  The old days are riddled with tales of martial artist going to extremes to stave off complacency.  They slept in caves, swore off wine and women, ate bugs, or did just about anything to avoid getting comfortable.  Eiji Yoshikawa's book Musashi is literally all about Miyamoto Musashi and his journey to stave off pleasure.  Miyamoto Musashi and other martial artists did this because they knew that complacency is the gateway to being unsuccessful.

The bed can be substituted for anything that we might choose in lieu of training - a nice meatball sub, a cold pint of beer, TV, hanging out with friends or anything that is comfy cozy.  I get it, but these things need to be undertaken with moderation because sometimes once they set in they are awfully hard to get out of.  We have all been there and some of us choose to get out of bed and some of us choose to stay.  Its your life and you are free to choose, but I my experience the bed can sometimes be the enemy.

I choose...

Who makes these changes?

Who makes these changes? I shoot to the right the arrow lands left I ride after a deer and find myself chased by a hog I plot to get what I want and end up in jail I dig pits to trap others and I fall in I should be suspicious of what I want

~ Jalal ad-Dīn Muhammad Rumi

Who makes these changes?  Me and me only.  I cannot control what happens to me, but I can choose what happens inside of me and what I am going to do in life.  When faced with an attacker, the classical responses are: fight, flight or freeze.  There is one more response - Aikido.

In Aikido we choose to see things differently and thus choose a different method of response.  Instead of running, freezing or fighting we harmonize with our opponent.  Although Aikido is a combat art, at its highest level mutual cooperation is its most coveted technique.  We know that all beings suffer and this person attacking us is no different.  Instead of destroying him, we show him the harmony of compassion.  To get to this high level one must train fastidiously and actively choose the path of Aikido and the way of harmony.

Your life is no different.  Are you chasing after a deer only to find yourself chased by the hog of life.  Well then, how about a change?  It is up to you, but if you fight, freeze or run away that is not Aikido.  Choose to see something that is not there.  The way out of suffering is through self reflection and awareness.  Self reflection and awareness are the fodder of choice and subsequently of change.

Therefore I choose...