Be vulnerable

 

Starting tonight our dojo will host a weapons seminar that caters to beginners.   Weapons are something that most Aikidoists find daunting, boring and at times mysterious.  Weapons skill can sometimes feel like it just came out of the ethos and that one needs to be a genius in order to master them.

This anxiety about weapons, or anything foreign for that matter, can either be a cause for anxiety or excitement.  How one perceives the situation dictates how they will experience it.

Werifesteria - To wander longingly through the forest in search of mystery.

I saw this word on the internet that made me think about learning and how we approach it.

By all accounts, werifesteria is actually a made up word.  A close Japanese equivalent for werifesteria might be yugen (幽玄) which I loosely translate as the mystery of something which makes it beautiful.

When we are in a forest rummaging around, there comes this point where we realize the beauty in that moment but somehow we can't quite put our finger on what it is that makes it beautiful - That is yugen.  To be in the state of yugen requires that we be vulnerable.

When I talk about vulnerability, I don't mean vulnerability from the standard definition of being easily hurt or attacked.  I mean that to experience yugen one must be in a state of openness which allows for the yugen to occur.

When we are open and willing, the world seems to open up and the experience of yugen just emerges.

Furuya Sensei used to say, "The only qualification a student needs is the right attitude."  The "right" attitude means allowing ourselves to be open and willing to learn or in other words to be vulnerable.

Brene Brown said, "Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.”  When we partake in this seminar, we will all be changing.  If we allow ourselves, who we are at the beginning will not be who we are at the end.  Therefore, based on Brene Brown's definition, we need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable.

If you are able to be vulnerable then what you don't know (aka the mystery) will somehow become beautiful or for lack of a better word - awesome.

I almost can't explain it.  When you find yourself getting nervous or anxious, just give yourself a smile, take a deep breath and say to yourself, "be vulnerable."  If you can do all three of those things then your experience will change and I guarantee that you will have a much better experience.

I wish you all a wonderfully vulnerable seminar!

Can you enryo?

Tbt: I found a nice snippet written by Furuya Sensei on enryo or modest restraint.

I think today we admire people who go out and get anything they want or can.  To me, some appear too forward, too aggressive and a little pushy.  But I suppose as long as they themselves are happy it doesn't matter much.  This goes for teachers as well as students.  In Japanese, at least the older times, we spoke of "enryo" (遠慮).  Enryo means to hesitate or show modesty or restraint.  

The other day, I spoke of the immediacy of one's answer, "hai," to establish this mental-spiritual connection with the other person.  We also see this connection with the other person having enryo by showing hesitation and modesty in their actions.  When someone offers something, we used to politely refuse several times before accepting to show our modesty and level of self-restraint. To simply grab what is offered without this little pause of polite ceremony was considered crass and rude by Japanese standard.  Some Japanese today say that this gesture is too complicated and takes too much time.  For me, it is still a beautiful sentiment.  It means that you really care for the other person and hesitate only to make sure of the other person's feelings.

Training is very complicated.  Sometimes we must answer quickly but sometimes we hesitate to show who we are and that we are not being too forward or pushy.  When we see the other person hesitate in this way with the feeling that they are not trying to offend us, it can really be touching and we respect this person much more.  Anyone can grab at what they want, but few can put others before themselves. Aikido training can not only make us strong, but I think it is also to make us very beautiful people too. 

Written February 3, 2002.

"Once more unto the breach, dear friends, once more." - King Henry from Shakespeare's Henry V

Rin Byo To Sha Kai Jin Retsu Zai Zen臨兵闘者皆陣列在前 "The bravest warriors surpasses all others at the front of the battlefield."

Rin Byo To Sha Kai Jin Retsu Zai Zen is a kuji or nine syllable incantation or prayer that is recited just before battle and is supposed to protect the reciter from harm.

Every day we all fight battles - some big and some small.  We must all stand and face our day with courage and commitment.  The samurai of old were no different.  Standing up for what they believe meant finding the courage to do what has to be done despite the circumstances or odds.

At the heart of change is courage.  If we want something different then we must venture out.  To venture out requires courage and that is why only the bravest at the front surpass all others.

Quietly reciting these words, "Rin Byo To Sha Kai Jin Retsu Zai Zen" just might give us the courage to face our daunting challenges and leap forward into the abyss of change.

Lighten your load

 

Every single one of us has a story to tell, but it is in the way that we tell this story which dictates the course of our life.  We can either let our story beat us up and weigh us down or lift us up and empower us.

Sometimes people come to class dragging their day behind them.  We can see their "story" written all over their faces and in their body language.  Furuya Sensei used to say, "You can learn everything you need to learn about a person by 'how' they do Aikido."

The fact of the matter is that each and everyone of us is suffering on some level.  If we can understand this then we are more likely to be gentler, kinder and more compassionate.

Life is about choices.  We can choose to be whoever we want and life our lives in a way that makes us happy, but that choice begins with "how" we choose to carry our load around.  Another factoid is that we are here and managing to survive despite what has or hasn't happened to us.  We are all so much stronger than we realize and we demonstrate that each and every day as we face the world.

Can you see the path clearly?  If not then maybe you should change the way you tell your story and thus lighten your load.

Either you win or you learn

 

"Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn." - John C. Maxwell

If you are a Cleveland or Golden State fan, last night's game 7 was a real nail bitter.  Today, depending on which side you are on, you are either happy or sad.

In the martial arts, we don't get the luxury of being either way.  The way we see it is just as John C. Maxwell asserts, "Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn."

In Buddhism, this mindset is called equanimity.  In swordsmanship it's called a non-abiding mind.  Either way, we cannot allow ourselves to be swayed one way or another.  When you win, great!  When you lose, great!  Regardless of the outcome, the situation allows us the opportunity for growth.

Victories only live on in books and martial artists understand the fleetingness of winning and, for that matter, losing.  We understand that the journey of life is a process of growth and self development where at any time or with any outcome we have the opportunity to learn something.  If we think for one moment that who we are is defined by that moment, we run the risk of losing our way.

Ubuntu = Aikido

Interesting graphic. At its core Ubuntu's philosophy is the same as Aikido's. As Aikidoists, we choose the path of Aikido because we too understand this philosophy of humanity. Aikidoists understand that all people are good and doing the best that they can. We understand that every person is suffering and going through their own stuff. Every person deserves kindness, compassion and forgiveness just as we do too when we make a mistake. To destroy them is to destroy our own humanity too and thus a vicious cycle ensues. When the people of the tribe surround the person who made the mistake and remind them of all the good they have done, they are doing Aikido and are breaking the cycle of negativity.

Keep the beginner's mind

https://youtu.be/M01Hr3CrCO8 The greatest asset one can possess is humility.

In this video, Karate Master Tatsuya Naka goes to Okinawa to learn about the roots of Japan Karate.

Tatsuya Naka Sensei is famous for his roles in Kuro Obi and High Kick Girl.

Sometimes when we reach a certain level in life, we think that we have some how "arrived."  When this happens we cease learning and lose what is known in Buddhism as the beginners mind or shoshin.

Most likely, the one thing that keeps us open and willing to learn is humility.  Humility is the realization of the smallness of ourselves in relation to all that is around us or the bigger picture.  When one realizes this, it is humbling.

Thus, to keep pushing one's level is a constant battle with humbleness/humility and one's ego.

If you want to see Karate done right in an action movie, watch Kuro Obi.  I was blown away by his performance and Karate skills.

This video show how someone at Tatsuya Naka Sensei's level still strives to better himself.   If Tatsuya Naka Sensei can take a step back, so can we.

The secret is...

 

If it was easy then everyone would do it.

Training in Aikido, or any martial art for that matter, requires that one puts their all into it.  In Japanese this "all in" attitude is called isshokenmei.  Isshokenmei means to put forth an effort equivalent to if one's "dear life" was at stake.  The word Isshokenmei has two different sets of kanji.  The first,  一所懸命 means to protect one's land and the other 一生懸命 means to protect life.  This one 一所懸命 is more commonly use today despite the fact that most of us don't have any land to protect.

The Japanese are huge fans of herculean efforts and almost always go with the sentimental favorite over the "big" guy.  One can see this in the creation of all of the Japanese martial arts and in the great stories of the heroes of those arts.

The martial arts is completely egalitarian in that whoever puts in the work gets good.  There are no short cuts, magic pills or secrets.  If you want to get good, you just have to put in the isshokenmei.

Defeating one's self is like trying to wrestle a tiger

 

Furuya Sensei used to say, "The Way is hard."

I am sure it is akin to wrestling a tiger.  To follow the Way means to live one's life at a higher level.  To get to this level and stay there is a constant battle against ego, complacency and carelessness.

I always remember a quote that I read in the Scientific American some years ago, "You fail to the level of your preparation."  It is so true.  We don't rise to the occasion, we fall to to the level of our weakness.

There are three doors in training that once opened can lead one down a path toward failure.

The first is ego which is the enemy of all martial artists.

The second is complacency.

The third is carelessness.

Once these doors get opened, they are hard to close.

A martial artist must always be humble, hardworking and diligent.

"Be polite, be professional, but have a plan to kill everybody you meet." - General Mattis

 

"Be polite, be professional, but have a plan to kill everybody you meet." - General Mattis

On a certain level General Mattis' words are completely true for budo or the martial arts.  However at another level, it is not quite apropos to someone of his level of understanding or ability.

To understand how his words pertain to budo, one might look to the kanji for the word martial arts or budo 武道 for an explanation.

At first glance, most look at the kanji for budo and see 武道 as just bu 武 for "warfare" and do 道 for "the way."  Therefore without knowing any better, one believes that budo simply means "the way of warfare."

However, as one trains a bit more and becomes more experienced the word budo and its kanji take on a deeper meaning.  To understand requires further training.  With this experience one learns to look deeper and as we take a look closer and peel back the layers, we see something different.  The kanji for bu 武 is actually made up for two separate radicals.  The kanji for stop 止 and the kanji for spear 戈.  From this closer look, the meaning of budo might be "the way to stop fighting."

General Mattis assertion isn't wrong, but perhaps, like most quotes, taken out of context.

We all start out with the desire to win and dominate our opponents.  As we become more learned, we realized how fleeting winning can be and that the true opponent is really ourselves.

Is the goal then to reach the level of "the way not fighting?"  Actually no, the goal is total relinquishment of even the idea of budo or perhaps it is like the time when a student visited a famous sword teacher and showed him a sword to which he said, "What is that?"

The famous sword teacher Yagyu Tajima no Kami said that in order to master swordsmanship one need to cure these diseases:

• The desire for victory,
• The desire to rely on technical cunning,
• The desire to show off,
• The desire to psychologically overwhelm the opponent,
• The desire to remain passive in order to wait for an opening, and
• The desire to become free of these diseases.

Learn it with your...

 

To learn the martial arts...

First learn it with your hand,

Next learn it with your head,

Then learn it with your heart.

Every student learns the martial arts along this trajectory regardless of style.

Choose the road less traveled.

"The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step." - Lao Tzu

Are  you the  person that you want to be?  If not, there is still time to turn that around.

At its core, martial arts training is really about change.  To uninitiated, it just looks like a bunch of throws, kicks or punches but the martial arts are much deeper than that.  The martial arts are the forge which create better people - stronger, faster, or wiser people.  We all begin as one person, but by the end we are a totally different people.

It seems corny to say, but we can all be the people that we have always wanted to be.  All that is required is that we take that first step.  The main ingredient to success is putting in the work.

There is a famous Japanese proverb about perseverance:

ちりもつもれば、やまとなる Chiri mo tsumoreba, yama to naru Even dust piled up over time become mountains.

To get to where we want to go requires that we put in the work.  Just start small.  We don't always have to start so grandiose with lofty goals or extravagant efforts.  As the proverb above states that something as small as a speck of dust can become something totally different.  All we have to do to change is start small and let momentum do all the work.  Don't think about what you're getting now but rather think about the person that you are becoming.

Satisfied with who you are?  Want to change?  Want to be better?

If you are not there yet, might I suggest you go to class?

Value life

 

I came across this passage that Furuya Sensei posted to his Daily Message on July 10, 2004 about this idea of Shisei Kan (死生観) or one's perspective on life or death.  People often erroneously think that the samurai loved death.  It is quite the contrary.  The samurai were able to find life in the face of death and that is what separates them from other warriors.

Shisei Kan:

If one is to pursue fame, fortune and power, I do not think Aikido is for you. They are two totally different paths. Even with my humble talents and poor strength, I still aspire to Aikido's ideals, but this is not easy at all. After 47 years, I have learned not to be discouraged although success and such is beyond my grasp. After all, the path to peace and harmony is a quiet and subtle one.

Today people see everything as pleasure and play. With such a mind, you will never understand the inner value of life - life itself will just pass by you like the floating clouds.

What is the great difference of the great warriors of the past and us today? In martial arts, we have forgotten "Shisei Kan" or View of Life and Death.

If we only focus on life, we begin to think that we are gods and are immortal. It we only think of death, we become desperate and lose hope.

Shisei Kan means to value Life by keeping a view of Death before us. It is this view of our own mortality that encourages us to preserve and refine our humanity within Life..

Tomorrow never comes because it is always today.

 

Anything in life worth achieving requires a start.  If we keen putting the start off until tomorrow we will never reach our goal.   Tomorrow never comes because it is always today.

Yesterday and tomorrow are illusions.  The only thing we can know for certain is that "now" is happening right at this moment.  We cannot change the past nor can we control the future but we can choose how we live in this moment.

Don't waste today waiting for tomorrow for tomorrow may never come.

Shhh...Keep your inner voices down

 

What do you say to yourself when you think no one else can hear?

How we talk to ourselves is super important to our successes not only in the dojo but in life too.

At the dojo, our classes are conducted in silence.  Students are not supposed to talk during  class but if they do talk it should be done in hushed tones.  This practice of silence is called mugon (無言) or aesthetic silence.  This practice of quietness is in place so that the students can learn to control their minds.  Quieting their minds and being able to focus their minds will enable the student to get the most out of their training. 

Sometimes, what ends up happening in this silence is that an inner monologue arises.  I say monologue because who else are we talking to.  It is easy to see this happening because it is written all over their faces as they do the techniques.  I assume that in psychotherapy this is called one's inner voice or self talk.

Training is about the mastery of the self.  That is why O Sensei advocated Masakatsu Agatsu or "the true victory is the victory over one's self."

What we say to ourselves as we narrate our experience should be positive and productive not negative and judgemental.  As in the quote above, "What you tell yourself everyday will either lift you up or tear you down."

The best way to figure out if your self talk is productive or unproductive is to ask yourself, "Would I let anyone else talk to me like that?"  Let your answer inform your decision.

There is saying, "Be kind, for every person you meet is fighting a battle."  Understanding this, we should give them kindness, compassion and forgiveness and this goes equally true for ourselves.  When you talk to yourself, be kind, gentle, compassionate and forgiving.  It really does make a difference.

Which Super Power Would You Choose?

Which superpower would you choose, if you could choose any one power? You could choose anything like super strength, the power to fly, instant invisibility, quick learning, irresistible charm or anything else.

For most people, the choice usually vacillates between the power to fly and the power to turn invisible.  Whichever superpower one ends up choosing ultimately says a lot about who that person is on the inside.

Flight is supposed to be our more altruistic outgoing self while invisibility is supposed to be  more introverted and darker.

How is understanding one's choice useful to a martial artist?  Our choices inform us about who we are by revealing our true inner nature.  With this information we get the opportunity to examine, accept or change ourselves.

When posed this question, I chose the power to be able to speak any language.  Hmm, I wonder what that says about me?

This question is a lot of fun and a great topic at parties but it is also a guide for change and the martial arts are all about change.  So, which superpower would you choose if you could only choose one?

I was inspired to write this post based on this audio program I found on This American Life about Superpowers.

Art by Herby Santana http://funky23.deviantart.com/art/Batman-V-Superman-Vector-476257164

Aikido training is not what you think...

In the beginning we think we are fighting someone else.

In the middle, we are sure we are fighting someone else.

In the end, we realize we are just fighting ourselves.

"Be kind for every person we meet is fighting a hard battle."

 

"Bravery is not the absence of fear but the forging ahead despite being afraid." - Robert liparulo

Facing each day takes a tremendous amount of courage.  No matter who we are, we all must get dressed and meet our day.  A hard fact of life is that every person struggles and nobody has it easy.  Understanding this, it would be nice if we all could all show each other a little bit more kindness, compassion and forgiveness.

Author Ian Maclaren said it best, "Be kind for every person we meet is fighting a hard battle."

If we could all remember this, the world would be a better place.  Have a great day and congratulations on meeting your day with courage.

Graphic source: http://jimmymcwicked.deviantart.com/art/the-hollow-of-the-harbour-wave-201072915?q=gallery:jimmymcwicked/2525386&qo=52

Be the kanabo

 

Oni ni kanabo (鬼に金棒) Give an ogre a kanabo. "To make someone strong, stronger."

Within Japanese folklore, a kanabo was the weapon primarily used by an oni which is a demon or ogre.  The oni is said to bring bad luck and evil spirits.  So, giving a kanabo to an ogre would make the already invincible demon even stronger.

The kanabo was commonly used during Japan's feudal period.  It is a club or staff adorned with spikes or knobby-like protrusions on its striking surface.  A kanabo is a smashing type weapon that would be used on the front lines of a battle where a samurai might meet up with enemy fortifications that were too strong for swords or spears.  It could be used to smash through an opponent's armor, break though their ramparts or simply break the legs of charging horses.  It was an effective but slow weapon and thus something typically not used in close quarters combat unless one was very strong.

In the martial arts, we only get better in relation to our partner's improvement.  In a sense, we are the kanabo.   In training when we give our bodies to our partners so that they can become stronger, we are like giving an ogre a kanabo.

No one has ever gotten good on their own.  We all need to work together as a community.  It may take village to raise a child but also an entire dojo to develop a student.  Please put your efforts into being your partner's kanabo and making them good first.  I promise you that it will pay dividends for not only you but the whole school too.

Are you ready for the teacher to appear?

https://youtu.be/G6FDts-erVw There is a Buddhist proverb, "When the student is ready, the teacher will appear."  I can't tell you how many times I have heard this quote and I also can't tell you how many times I have heard it explained (in my opinion) incorrectly.  The meaning behind this proverb is that when a student approaches their training with the proper attitude and perspective then everyone and everything can become their teacher and thus they can learn anything.

Learning something new is difficult, but certain programs have found a way to teach even the most difficult concepts.  One of those programs is Sesame Street.  Kids (and adults) have used Sesame Street to learn English, counting, the alphabet, and life lessons to name just a few.  But who knew that you could learn how to learn the martial arts from Sesame Street?

Some how the people at Sesame Street have found a way to boil down to exactly what a student would need to do to be a successful in the martial arts.

Learning Aikido is simple if you follow Mr. Mi-cookies teachings.

Please come to class and listen with your whole body - eyes watch, ears listen, voice quiet and body calm.

Are you ready for the teacher to appear?